#ISSUE 30 of #MY_VISIBLE_WINGS

😘#My_Visible_Wings ISSUE 30
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Chidinma Blessing.
#NoToViolenceInFamilies Part 2

Domestic abuse (violence) is a behavior we see in most environments in our society. We hear about this Odd happening in homes, schools, social and religious gathering. Children witness it, the neighbours witness it. The witnesses and the victims are always affected negatively by domestic violence. It affects self esteem, one’s value, physical appearance and emotional stability. Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior which involves violence or other abuse by one person against another in a domestic setting, such as in marriage.
Most times we are aware of only the male predators but there are cases where the females themselves partake in violating others. Predators have the sense of power over another. They exert their will. They get some sort of fulfillment from torturing and causing pain to another person. Bullying is a very common form of abuse too. NO form of abuse is minor to the other. They are all detestable and very heart-wrenching.
“Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife” (Proverbs 21:9. NIV)
“WOMEN don’t HEAT UP MEN; OVENS DO”. Is your husband a jobless, irresponsible and extremely calm man? Is that a reason to teach him a  lesson or two from time to time? Does he deserve all the naggings and punishments you give to him? Does torturing him make you a better person? Is there peace and joy in your home  as a result of your attitude? If the answer to these questions is no, then why don’t you have a change of heart from today? From the picture of the week, you  can see the effect of shock and disappointment on the face of the woman-in-blue. The “Why?” expression on the man’s face. The bible admonishes women to be women of virtue so “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value” (Proverbs 31:11. NIV). What about you young woman, do you think it is okay to hit that boy because you have a bigger stature than he has? Do you believe you should exert #WomenEquality by taking things forcefully from others?
Oftentimes, children and spouses have nowhere to turn or don't know where to turn. 90% of abusers have been seen to have been abused somewhere during their life-time, so how does the trend stop. How do someone put a stop to this menace in the society. Should partners keep abusing partners or their children. And these children keep abusing their own children and this becomes an endless cycle. NO! NO!! NO!!
Jesus is the HELP. Jesus is the person to focus on. HE will send the HOLYSPIRIT to minister to your spirit on how to control that temper, how to respect and value your man and how to be a woman of noble character. Communicating with him daily will remind you of how you are expected to behave to get praises from your husband. If you have a change of heart today and invite him into your life. He will come in and heal all those scars from the past, you can gradually be a changed person that will be adored by those around you.

OYINKANSOLA ADEITE
Coordinator for the week
#Issue 30 of #MY_VISIBLE_WINGS
November 2015